Teens migrate to Twitter

We as parents are trying to protect our children… But sometimes they are not too happy about it. For some adults social media is still new, while our kids seem to be the expert. But as we are finally getting up to speed with Facebook, our children decide to make our life even more difficult. They are trying to escape our supervision by switching to different social networks, such as Twitter. So now, it is our turn to catch up with them again… Is it just me or could this be a never-ending story!? Read the article posted on MSNBC.com:

CHICAGO — Teens don’t tweet, will never tweet — too public, too many older users. Not cool.

That’s been the prediction for a while now, born of numbers showing that fewer than one in 10 teens were using Twitter early on.

But then their parents, grandparents, neighbors, parents’ friends and anyone in-between started friending them on Facebook, the social networking site of choice for many — and a curious thing began to happen.

Suddenly, their space wasn’t just theirs anymore. So more young people have started shifting to Twitter, almost hiding in plain sight.

“I love twitter, it’s the only thing I have to myself … cause my parents don’t have one,” Britteny Praznik, a 17-year-old who lives outside Milwaukee, gleefully tweeted recently.

While she still has a Facebook account, she joined Twitter last summer, after more people at her high school did the same. “It just sort of caught on,” she says.

Teens tout the ease of use and the ability to send the equivalent of a text message to a circle of friends, often a smaller one than they have on crowded Facebook accounts. They can have multiple accounts and don’t have to use their real names. They also can follow their favorite celebrities and, for those interested in doing so, use Twitter as a soapbox.

The growing popularity teens report fits with findings from the Pew Internet & American Life Project, a nonprofit organization that monitors people’s tech-based habits. The migration has been slow, but steady. A Pew survey last July found that 16 percent of young people, ages 12 to 17, said they used Twitter. Two years earlier, that percentage was just 8 percent.

“That doubling is definitely a significant increase,” says Mary Madden, a senior research specialist at Pew. And she suspects it’s even higher now.

Meanwhile, a Pew survey found that nearly one in five 18- to 29-year-olds have taken a liking to the micro-blogging service, which allows them to tweet, or post, their thoughts 140 characters at a time.

Early on, Twitter had a reputation that many didn’t think fit the online habits of teens — well over half of whom were already using Facebook or other social networking services in 2006, when Twitter launched.

“The first group to colonize Twitter were people in the technology industry — consummate self-promoters,” says Alice Marwick, a post-doctoral researcher atMicrosoft Research, who tracks young people’s online habits.

(Msnbc.com is a joint venture of Microsoft and NBC Universal.)

For teens, self-promotion isn’t usually the goal. At least until they go to college and start thinking about careers, social networking is, well, … social.

But as Twitter has grown, so have the ways people, and communities, use it.

For one, though some don’t realize it, tweets don’t have to be public. A lot of teens like using locked, private accounts. And whether they lock them or not, many also use pseudonyms, so that only their friends know who they are.

“Facebook is like shouting into a crowd. Twitter is like speaking into a room” — that’s what one teen said when he was participating in a focus group at Microsoft Research, Marwick says.

Other teens have told Pew researchers that they feel “social pressure,” to friend people on Facebook — “for instance, friending everyone in your school or that friend of a friend you met at a football game,” Pew researcher Madden says.

Twitter’s more fluid and anonymous setup, teens say, gives them more freedom to avoid friends of friends of friends — not that they’re saying anything particularly earth-shattering. They just don’t want everyone to see it.

Praznik, for instance, tweets anything from complaints and random thoughts to angst and longing.

“i hate snow i hate winter.Moving to California as soon as i can,” one recent post from the Wisconsin teen read.

“Dont add me as a friend for a day just to check up on me and then delete me again and then you wonder why im mad at you.duhhh,” read another.

And one more: “I wish you were mine but you don’t know wht you want. Till you figure out what you want I’m going to do my own thing.”

Different teenagers use Twitter for different reasons.

Some monitor celebrities.

“Twitter is like a backstage pass to a concert,” says Jason Hennessey, CEO of Everspark Interactive, a tech-based marketing agency in Atlanta. “You could send a tweet to Justin Bieber 10 minutes before the concert, and there’s a chance he might tweet you back.”

A few teens use it as a platform to share opinions, keeping their accounts public for all the world to see, as many adults do.

Taylor Smith, a 14-year-old in St. Louis, is one who uses Twitter to monitor the news and to get her own “small points across.” Recently, that has included her dislike for strawberry Pop Tarts and her admiration for a video that features the accomplishments of young female scientists.

She started tweeting 18 months ago after her dad opened his own account. He gave her his blessing, though he watches her account closely.

“Once or twice I used bad language and he never let me hear the end of it,” Smith says. Even so, she appreciates the chance to vent and to be heard and thinks it’s only a matter of time before her friends realize that Twitter is the cool place to be — always an important factor with teens.

They need to “realize it’s time to get in the game,” Smith say, though she notes that some don’t have smart phones or their own laptops — or their parents don’t want them to tweet, feeling they’re too young.

Pam Praznik, Britteny’s mother, keeps track of her daughter’s Facebook accounts. But Britteny asked that she not follow her on Twitter — and her mom is fine with that, as long as the tweets remain between friends.

“She could text her friends anyway, without me knowing,” mom says.

Marwick at Microsoft thinks that’s a good call.

“Parents should kind of chill and give them that space,” she says.

Still, teens and parents shouldn’t assume that even locked accounts are completely private, says Ananda Mitra, a professor of communication at Wake Forest University in North Carolina.

Online privacy, he says, is “mythical privacy.”

Certainly, parents are always concerned about online predators — and experts say they should use the same common sense online as they do in the outside world when it comes to dealing with strangers and providing too much personal information.

But there are other privacy issues to consider, Mitra says.

Someone with a public Twitter account might, for instance, retweet a posting made on a friend’s locked account, allowing anyone to see it. It happens all the time.

And on a deeper level, he says those who use Twitter and Facebook — publicly or privately — leave a trail of “digital DNA” that could be mined by universities or employers, law enforcement or advertisers because it is provided voluntarily.

Mitra has coined the term “narb” to describe the narrative bits people reveal about themselves online — age, gender, location and opinions, based on interactions with their friends.

So true privacy, he says, would “literally means withdrawing” from textual communication online or on phones — in essence, using this technology in very limited ways.

He realizes that’s not very likely, the way things are going — but he says it is something to think about when interacting with friends, expressing opinions or even “liking” or following a corporation or public figure.

But Marwick at Microsoft still thinks private accounts pose little risk when you consider the content of the average teenager’s Twitter account.

“They just want someplace they can express themselves and talk with their friends without everyone watching,” she says.

Much like teens always have.

A teen guide to staying safe online

Sometimes, it seems to be impossible to get our children to take our advice. They tend to listen to their peers more than they listen to us… Here’s a guide we found on BBC News with words of advice from teens for teens on some important online safety issues:

 

Pupils from Chislehurst and Sidcup  Grammar School

Pupils working on their reports about being safe online.

Staying safe online is an important issue for young people using the internet, with cyberbullying becoming an increasingly serious problem.

To coincide with Safer Internet Day on 7 February, School Reporters at Chislehurst & Sidcup Grammar investigated some of the safety issues which affect young people online.

Have a read of their top tips to staying safe and out of trouble when you’re on the web.

 

SOCIAL NETWORKS

 

By Josie, 13

Facebook is one of the most popular social networking sites with over 800 million people online – lots of them people our age.

With people posting and ‘liking’ everyday, it is a great way to share what you’re doing with your friends. But are they all friends?

People can hold fake accounts, pretending to be someone they’re not. This may seem scary but there are some things you can do. Safety on Facebook is very important, but do you really know how to stay safe using social networks?

First thing to do is check your privacy settings – making sure you know what you’re showing to the general public. Some status updates and pictures could attract these ‘fakers’.

 Never agree to meet people that you’ve never met in real life 

You can change this setting so only your friends can see, with just one click of your mouse.

Accounts can be hacked into if you have a weak password, so make sure your password is one which only you know. This can cause ‘fakers’ to pretend and write posts in your name.

To avoid this, have a strong password that includes numbers or symbols. You can check if people hacked your Facebook account by checking your statuses. Changing your password often, also helps.

Never agree to meet people that you’ve never met in real life. This could be dangerous, as that 14-year-old boy could be an old grandpa! To avoid this don’t agree to meet up, no matter how good it may seem and always tell your parents!

 

HACKING

 

By Jack, 12

You need to be very careful when you are online because criminals can hack your computer really easily.

Always protect your data. Criminals are most likely to hack websites when you enter a credit card number in.

Children at Chiselhurst and Sidcup Grammar School

Pupils working on their online safety guides

If you do buy a product online, then you should use a ‘Single-Use’ account which is located on most websites. This is when your card details are deleted straight after payment.

Also avoid buying products from sites that you don’t know. Only buy products online from sites that you trust.

And always remember that even if a site says ‘secure’ and starts with https: it means that it is harder to hack, but not impossible to hack.

 

PERSONAL INFORMATION

 

By Millie, 12

Keep details such as your full name, address, mobile number, email address, school name and friends full names secret.

Otherwise people can use this information to contact you. Your passwords and nicknames should always be secret.

If you have to give an online screen name or nickname, never use your real name, and try not to use things that are easy to guess like your parents name or the name of a pet.

When you send a text or photo message from your mobile, your phone number automatically goes with it.

So think carefully, especially before sending photos of yourself or friends from your camera-phone.

 

DOWNLOADING

 

By Jo, 12

Gaming and technology has really moved on. You can send countless messages as you sit in your chair and play on your console.

Also you can now download games so that they’re ready to play as soon as you click ‘download’. However not all downloads are completely safe – some may contain viruses, and not all messages will be friendly. Here’s what to do if you receive a bad message or virus.

 Always let an adult know if you think you are being cyberbullied 

Check the website that you have downloaded and research its history before you press ‘download’. If it is the official webpage of the download, it should be ok, but you should always check.

Do you know what to do if a user starts hassling you online? Who do you tell? Where can you turn?

Check out the report abuse section of the games website you’re on, or, if you’re on your console playing, make sure you know how to block a user and save the evidence of their abuse. Always let an adult know if you think you are being cyberbullied.

 

CYBERBULLYING

 

By Sienna, 12, Issy, 13, & Marina, 12

Even on the internet bullying can occur. Posting an embarrassing or humiliating video of someone, harassing someone by sending messages or even setting up profiles on social networking sites are all examples of cyberbullying.

No one especially children and teenagers should go through this. Normally the bully may seem big but is actually as scared and shy as the victim. People seem so big over the internet. You don’t really know who is out there or who is behind the profile or screen.

Talk to someone you trust. This could be a teacher, parent or friend. You may even have to change your email address if you’re repeatedly bullied through email.

 You can easily become a bully – stop and think before you write a message 

No matter how horrible the message – do not reply. That is what the bully wants. Instead block instant messages and emails. Ask a parent or teacher for help.

Whatever you think, you’re not alone. There is always someone else who has gone through something like you. In our class at school of 18 pupils, seven have been cyberbullied and 12 know someone who has experienced it.

In terms of instant messaging, it is very easy to say something that you wouldn’t say in real life. You can easily become a bully. Stop and think before you write a message. Think of the consequences. How would you feel in that situation?

 

Parental stalking online is not the best solution

We cannot put enough emphasis on the importance of TALKING to your child about online security. Some parents may think it is enough to stalk their children online, but cyber safety experts warn parents about the downfalls of stalking: Aside from abusing teens’ privacy, it also forges coded forms of communication online, using in-jokes, shared references and even song lyrics to evade parental scrutiny. Read the article below that we found on Theage.com.au:

 

PARENTS should not stalk their children online, warns Dr Danah Boyd, a leading US cyber safety expert visiting Australia to lecture on teens’ online privacy.

Described by The New York Times last month as ”a rock star emissary from the online and offline world of teenagers”, the 34-year-old New York University professor and Harvard researcher advises governments, corporations and organisations worldwide on teen communication. She is leading Microsoft’s investigation of child trafficking online, and Lady Gaga funds her bullying research through the Born This Way Foundation.

But Dr Boyd warns that constant parental online surveillance not only abuses teens’ privacy but also obliges them to forge coded forms of communication online, using in-jokes, shared references and even song lyrics to evade parental scrutiny.

”The kind of public life we see online has never existed before,” Dr Boyd told Fairfax Media ahead of her lecture at RMIT on Thursday. ”But it’s a myth that teens don’t care about privacy. It’s really impressive what teens do to find new ways to be private in public.”

When so many cyber studies warn parents of the dangers of the internet, Dr Boyd has become the voice in favour of letting children log on and learn for themselves.

”Children’s ability to roam has been destroyed,” she says. By demonising the internet, we shut down the only social space they have left. ”Being a successful adult in society requires social skills. And we desperately need to give youth space to learn them,” she said.

As the Victorian Privacy Commissioner polls Victorian teens about ”sexting” – sending revealing photos as texts – Dr Boyd supports calls for the laws classifying these photos as child pornography to be scrapped. She will be comparing US and Australian sexting laws in a study with University of New South Wales professor Kate Crawford.

”I have nothing against taking a legal stance against harassing and blackmail, but why prosecute the kids who are taking the pictures?”

She has described the pressure on parents to supervise their children’s internet habits as ”an arms race” between surveillance technology and privacy software to cloak activities.

”As kids work to be invisible to people who hold direct power over them (parents, teachers, etc), they happily expose themselves to audiences of peers,” Dr Boyd writes on her blog. ”And they expose themselves to corporations. They know that the company can see everything they send through their servers/service, but who cares? Until these companies show clear allegiance with their parents, they’re happy to assume that the companies are on their side and can do them no harm.”

Parents who want to help their children navigate an online social minefield need to educate and communicate, not berate, restrict or panic, Dr Boyd said. ”The way forward is to have open conversations, to really have a dialogue of trust … if you engage in surveillance and break that trust, you’ll teach them not to talk to you.”

In her work for the Internet Safety Technical Task Force of US state attorneys-general in 2008, Dr Boyd found the children most at risk of harm online – through cyber bullying or contact with predators – were the ones most at risk offline. Youth workers and educators should be trained to look for signs online that a teen was in trouble, Dr Boyd said, rather than assume the internet was the cause.

Have your teens seen porn?

Take a look at the SCARY statistics we found on Unlockingfemininity.com. Would you have guessed these numbers?!

Teens join Twitter to escape parents on Facebook

Children like their privacy. And often, we find that they are more tech savvy than their parents… So it’s rather unsurprising that they are trying to find new ways to regain their privacy. Check out this article posted by our Canadian neighbors… Do you think it is something only they are dealing with, or do we need to be aware of this in the U.S. as well?!?

 

Teens don’t tweet, will never tweet – too public, too many older users. Not cool.

That’s been the prediction for a while now, born of numbers showing that fewer than one in 10 teens were using Twitter early on.

But then their parents, grandparents, neighbours, parents’ friends and anyone in-between started friending them on Facebook, the social networking site of choice for many — and a curious thing began to happen.

Suddenly, their space wasn’t just theirs anymore. So more young people have started shifting to Twitter, almost hiding in plain sight.

“I love twitter, it’s the only thing I have to myself.cause my parents don’t have one,” Britteny Praznik, a 17-year-old who lives outside Milwaukee, gleefully tweeted recently.

While she still has a Facebook account, she joined Twitter last summer, after more people at her high school did the same. “It just sort of caught on,” she says.

Teens tout the ease of use and the ability to send the equivalent of a text message to a circle of friends, often a smaller one than they have on crowded Facebook accounts. They can have multiple accounts and don’t have to use their real names. They also can follow their favourite celebrities and, for those interested in doing so, use Twitter as a soapbox.

The growing popularity teens report fits with findings from the Pew Internet & American Life Project, a non-profit organization that monitors people’s tech-based habits. The migration has been slow, but steady. A Pew survey last July found that 16 per cent of young people, ages 12 to 17, said they used Twitter. Two years earlier, that percentage was just eight per cent.

“That doubling is definitely a significant increase,” says Mary Madden, a senior research specialist at Pew. And she suspects it’s even higher now.

Meanwhile, a Pew survey found that nearly one in five 18- to 29-year-olds have taken a liking to the micro-blogging service, which allows them to tweet, or post, their thoughts 140 characters at a time.

Early on, Twitter had a reputation that many didn’t think fit the online habits of teens — well over half of whom were already using Facebook or other social networking services in 2006, when Twitter launched.

“The first group to colonize Twitter were people in the technology industry — consummate self-promoters,” says Alice Marwick, a post-doctoral researcher at Microsoft Research, who tracks young people’s online habits.

For teens, self-promotion isn’t usually the goal. At least until they go to college and start thinking about careers, social networking is, well, social.

But as Twitter has grown, so have the ways people, and communities, use it.

For one, though some don’t realize it, tweets don’t have to be public. A lot of teens like using locked, private accounts. And whether they lock them or not, many also use pseudonyms, so that only their friends know who they are.

“Facebook is like shouting into a crowd. Twitter is like speaking into a room” — that’s what one teen said when he was participating in a focus group at Microsoft Research, Ms. Marwick says.

Other teens have told Pew researchers that they feel “social pressure,” to friend people on Facebook — “for instance, friending everyone in your school or that friend of a friend you met at a football game,” Pew researcher Ms. Madden says.

Twitter’s more fluid and anonymous setup, teens say, gives them more freedom to avoid friends of friends of friends — not that they’re saying anything particularly earth-shattering. They just don’t want everyone to see it.

Read the full story on The Globe and Mail

Spying on Teens

There’s a fine line between wanting to protect your children and spying on them. Your children, especially your teenagers want their privacy – they THINK they are entitled to it… So while we as parents reason spying with the urge to protect our children, we often upset them and potentially jeopardize the trusting relationship we have with our kids.

How much spying is too much? There seems to be no right or wrong answer to this… Check out the article that was posted on Huffington Post about this issue:

 

How much, if ever, should we use technology to spy on our teens? According to Anthony Wolf, clinical psychologist and author most recently of “I’d Listen To My Parents If They’d Just Shut Up,” that question “is one of the most discussed dilemmas in teenage parenting circles.” The italics are Wolf’s.

I’m relieved to know that me and my tribe of post 50 friends with teens are not alone in fretting over this question. Before my son went on Facebook I had one condition: that he friend me so I could keep tabs on him. I’d warned him about the perils of the online world, including the fact that what goes on the Internet has the half-life of plutonium.

What I didn’t tell him, primarily because it didn’t really dawn on me at the time, was that Facebook and all the spokes in the wheel that radiate from this cyber supernova of connectivity (iChat, Google chat, texting, Skype, etc.) would give me extraordinary access to his private world should I choose to avail myself of it.

And the temptation is undeniable. When my son left a long iChat dialogue thread open on my laptop (emphasis on the words “my laptop”), I could not resist reading. I learned about several things he was doing on the sly. They were a little dicey but essentially age-appropriate. I, too, did them when I was his age. In fact, I had far more freedom than he did (another issue altogether). Still, the ability to peer into his world was an enticement to surveil him even more. And in that I’m not alone, either.

But what are the costs of cyber snooping on our kids, assuming they’re not being cyber-stalked or are cyber stalkers, or that nothing truly dangerous is going on? And what do we do with compromising information, whether it has to do with our child or someone else’s child? Does being a parent give us carte blanche to spy or snoop on our kids?

There are no right or wrong answers here, just a sea of subjective opinions as diverse as the parents who assert them. Some parents are control freaks. Others are more laissez-faire. Parenting experts, however, have some pretty clear consensual opinions. Wolf asks: “To what extent do you need to know about everything your child is doing in order to steer them in the right direction or to best protect them from harm? How much do you need to know in order to allow them the freedom and concomitant risk that enables them to navigate future situations better on their own?” It’s almost a rhetorical question.

“Kids that are hell-bent on bad behavior will usually find a way to engage in that behavior,” Wolf continues. And most parents will eventually find out about it in the real world. But “secret snooping has a definite downside. It is dishonest. And if our children find out — which they often do — they will very likely feel betrayed. It says that, in the adult world, being dishonest is okay, provided you have a good enough reason to be. If I could be convinced that sneaky snooping was a significantly useful instrument in a parent’s arsenal for protecting children from significant harm, then I might go along, reluctantly. But I don’t think it is.”

Wendy Mogel, clinical psychologist and author most recently of “The Blessing of a B Minus,” echoes Wolf’s sentiments. In a piece called “The Digital Lives of Your Kids: What Parents Need To Know” Mogel writes of the online world: “Our children’s lives are not like ours were. They’re not free to hang out at the corner drugstore or on the stoop or in a vacant lot. They have little privacy or downtime. They are scrutinized, measured and cloistered. But teenagers need to communicate and connect and express themselves freely. They need privacy and risk. They even need to make a few cheap mistakes before they go off to college.”

The value of the “cheap mistake” — indeed, even the blessings of a B minus, to coin the title of Mogel’s book — is often lost in today’s competitive and fearful parenting zeitgeist. But Mogel and Wolf both have good points. There is no room for what Mogel calls “the experimental floater life” or “a gentle truthiness” — two things we all got away with in our day — when an electronic eye is always peering overhead.

My son can’t get away with a white lie, for example (“Hey mom, can I get on Facebook? I don’t have any homework tonight”) because I can simply go online to Teacherease and instantly check the veracity of that statement. (“That’s not true. You have biology and geometry…”) I can also get real-time snapshots of his grades on every assignment and in every class, making report cards almost redundant.

Like most teens, my son loathes this. I have mixed feelings. On the one hand, I revel in the instant access to his academic progress. On the other hand, I feel like a traffic cop sitting perpetually by the side of the road with radar gun poised. Is there an injustice here, even if the virtues to the parents are evident? And how might this effect my son’s ability to be self-reliant (the subject of Mogel’s first book “The Blessings of a Skinned Knee”)?

A recent New York Times article called “Cracking Teenagers’ Online Codes” explored this terrain in a profile of 34-year-old Danah Boyd, a hip “rock star emissary from the online and offline world of teenagers” who is also a senior researcher at Microsoft and a fellow at the Berman Center for Internet and Society at Harvard. “Children’s ability to roam has basically been destroyed,” Boyd told the Times. “Letting your child out to bike around the neighborhood is seen as terrifying now, even though by all measures, life is safer for kids today.”

Like Mogel, Boyd sees the Internet as the online equivalent of yesterday’s café or coffee shop, where kids should be able to congregate, hang-out, and share their grievances and passions — without parental interference. “Teenagers absolutely care about privacy,” she states. “Teenagers are not some alien population. When we see new technologies, we think they make everything different for young people. But they really don’t. Teenagers are the same as they always were.”

That might be the case, but those “new technologies” certainly make parenting different. The virtual environments in which teens socialize and learn about the real world are also vastly different, posing all sorts of other questions that are as psychological as they are cultural. In fact, if anything seems constant in this new electronic wilderness, it’s that parenting is still as challenging as it is rewarding — and there’s nothing virtual about that.