Teens migrate to Twitter

We as parents are trying to protect our children… But sometimes they are not too happy about it. For some adults social media is still new, while our kids seem to be the expert. But as we are finally getting up to speed with Facebook, our children decide to make our life even more difficult. They are trying to escape our supervision by switching to different social networks, such as Twitter. So now, it is our turn to catch up with them again… Is it just me or could this be a never-ending story!? Read the article posted on MSNBC.com:

CHICAGO — Teens don’t tweet, will never tweet — too public, too many older users. Not cool.

That’s been the prediction for a while now, born of numbers showing that fewer than one in 10 teens were using Twitter early on.

But then their parents, grandparents, neighbors, parents’ friends and anyone in-between started friending them on Facebook, the social networking site of choice for many — and a curious thing began to happen.

Suddenly, their space wasn’t just theirs anymore. So more young people have started shifting to Twitter, almost hiding in plain sight.

“I love twitter, it’s the only thing I have to myself … cause my parents don’t have one,” Britteny Praznik, a 17-year-old who lives outside Milwaukee, gleefully tweeted recently.

While she still has a Facebook account, she joined Twitter last summer, after more people at her high school did the same. “It just sort of caught on,” she says.

Teens tout the ease of use and the ability to send the equivalent of a text message to a circle of friends, often a smaller one than they have on crowded Facebook accounts. They can have multiple accounts and don’t have to use their real names. They also can follow their favorite celebrities and, for those interested in doing so, use Twitter as a soapbox.

The growing popularity teens report fits with findings from the Pew Internet & American Life Project, a nonprofit organization that monitors people’s tech-based habits. The migration has been slow, but steady. A Pew survey last July found that 16 percent of young people, ages 12 to 17, said they used Twitter. Two years earlier, that percentage was just 8 percent.

“That doubling is definitely a significant increase,” says Mary Madden, a senior research specialist at Pew. And she suspects it’s even higher now.

Meanwhile, a Pew survey found that nearly one in five 18- to 29-year-olds have taken a liking to the micro-blogging service, which allows them to tweet, or post, their thoughts 140 characters at a time.

Early on, Twitter had a reputation that many didn’t think fit the online habits of teens — well over half of whom were already using Facebook or other social networking services in 2006, when Twitter launched.

“The first group to colonize Twitter were people in the technology industry — consummate self-promoters,” says Alice Marwick, a post-doctoral researcher atMicrosoft Research, who tracks young people’s online habits.

(Msnbc.com is a joint venture of Microsoft and NBC Universal.)

For teens, self-promotion isn’t usually the goal. At least until they go to college and start thinking about careers, social networking is, well, … social.

But as Twitter has grown, so have the ways people, and communities, use it.

For one, though some don’t realize it, tweets don’t have to be public. A lot of teens like using locked, private accounts. And whether they lock them or not, many also use pseudonyms, so that only their friends know who they are.

“Facebook is like shouting into a crowd. Twitter is like speaking into a room” — that’s what one teen said when he was participating in a focus group at Microsoft Research, Marwick says.

Other teens have told Pew researchers that they feel “social pressure,” to friend people on Facebook — “for instance, friending everyone in your school or that friend of a friend you met at a football game,” Pew researcher Madden says.

Twitter’s more fluid and anonymous setup, teens say, gives them more freedom to avoid friends of friends of friends — not that they’re saying anything particularly earth-shattering. They just don’t want everyone to see it.

Praznik, for instance, tweets anything from complaints and random thoughts to angst and longing.

“i hate snow i hate winter.Moving to California as soon as i can,” one recent post from the Wisconsin teen read.

“Dont add me as a friend for a day just to check up on me and then delete me again and then you wonder why im mad at you.duhhh,” read another.

And one more: “I wish you were mine but you don’t know wht you want. Till you figure out what you want I’m going to do my own thing.”

Different teenagers use Twitter for different reasons.

Some monitor celebrities.

“Twitter is like a backstage pass to a concert,” says Jason Hennessey, CEO of Everspark Interactive, a tech-based marketing agency in Atlanta. “You could send a tweet to Justin Bieber 10 minutes before the concert, and there’s a chance he might tweet you back.”

A few teens use it as a platform to share opinions, keeping their accounts public for all the world to see, as many adults do.

Taylor Smith, a 14-year-old in St. Louis, is one who uses Twitter to monitor the news and to get her own “small points across.” Recently, that has included her dislike for strawberry Pop Tarts and her admiration for a video that features the accomplishments of young female scientists.

She started tweeting 18 months ago after her dad opened his own account. He gave her his blessing, though he watches her account closely.

“Once or twice I used bad language and he never let me hear the end of it,” Smith says. Even so, she appreciates the chance to vent and to be heard and thinks it’s only a matter of time before her friends realize that Twitter is the cool place to be — always an important factor with teens.

They need to “realize it’s time to get in the game,” Smith say, though she notes that some don’t have smart phones or their own laptops — or their parents don’t want them to tweet, feeling they’re too young.

Pam Praznik, Britteny’s mother, keeps track of her daughter’s Facebook accounts. But Britteny asked that she not follow her on Twitter — and her mom is fine with that, as long as the tweets remain between friends.

“She could text her friends anyway, without me knowing,” mom says.

Marwick at Microsoft thinks that’s a good call.

“Parents should kind of chill and give them that space,” she says.

Still, teens and parents shouldn’t assume that even locked accounts are completely private, says Ananda Mitra, a professor of communication at Wake Forest University in North Carolina.

Online privacy, he says, is “mythical privacy.”

Certainly, parents are always concerned about online predators — and experts say they should use the same common sense online as they do in the outside world when it comes to dealing with strangers and providing too much personal information.

But there are other privacy issues to consider, Mitra says.

Someone with a public Twitter account might, for instance, retweet a posting made on a friend’s locked account, allowing anyone to see it. It happens all the time.

And on a deeper level, he says those who use Twitter and Facebook — publicly or privately — leave a trail of “digital DNA” that could be mined by universities or employers, law enforcement or advertisers because it is provided voluntarily.

Mitra has coined the term “narb” to describe the narrative bits people reveal about themselves online — age, gender, location and opinions, based on interactions with their friends.

So true privacy, he says, would “literally means withdrawing” from textual communication online or on phones — in essence, using this technology in very limited ways.

He realizes that’s not very likely, the way things are going — but he says it is something to think about when interacting with friends, expressing opinions or even “liking” or following a corporation or public figure.

But Marwick at Microsoft still thinks private accounts pose little risk when you consider the content of the average teenager’s Twitter account.

“They just want someplace they can express themselves and talk with their friends without everyone watching,” she says.

Much like teens always have.

A teen guide to staying safe online

Sometimes, it seems to be impossible to get our children to take our advice. They tend to listen to their peers more than they listen to us… Here’s a guide we found on BBC News with words of advice from teens for teens on some important online safety issues:

 

Pupils from Chislehurst and Sidcup  Grammar School

Pupils working on their reports about being safe online.

Staying safe online is an important issue for young people using the internet, with cyberbullying becoming an increasingly serious problem.

To coincide with Safer Internet Day on 7 February, School Reporters at Chislehurst & Sidcup Grammar investigated some of the safety issues which affect young people online.

Have a read of their top tips to staying safe and out of trouble when you’re on the web.

 

SOCIAL NETWORKS

 

By Josie, 13

Facebook is one of the most popular social networking sites with over 800 million people online – lots of them people our age.

With people posting and ‘liking’ everyday, it is a great way to share what you’re doing with your friends. But are they all friends?

People can hold fake accounts, pretending to be someone they’re not. This may seem scary but there are some things you can do. Safety on Facebook is very important, but do you really know how to stay safe using social networks?

First thing to do is check your privacy settings – making sure you know what you’re showing to the general public. Some status updates and pictures could attract these ‘fakers’.

 Never agree to meet people that you’ve never met in real life 

You can change this setting so only your friends can see, with just one click of your mouse.

Accounts can be hacked into if you have a weak password, so make sure your password is one which only you know. This can cause ‘fakers’ to pretend and write posts in your name.

To avoid this, have a strong password that includes numbers or symbols. You can check if people hacked your Facebook account by checking your statuses. Changing your password often, also helps.

Never agree to meet people that you’ve never met in real life. This could be dangerous, as that 14-year-old boy could be an old grandpa! To avoid this don’t agree to meet up, no matter how good it may seem and always tell your parents!

 

HACKING

 

By Jack, 12

You need to be very careful when you are online because criminals can hack your computer really easily.

Always protect your data. Criminals are most likely to hack websites when you enter a credit card number in.

Children at Chiselhurst and Sidcup Grammar School

Pupils working on their online safety guides

If you do buy a product online, then you should use a ‘Single-Use’ account which is located on most websites. This is when your card details are deleted straight after payment.

Also avoid buying products from sites that you don’t know. Only buy products online from sites that you trust.

And always remember that even if a site says ‘secure’ and starts with https: it means that it is harder to hack, but not impossible to hack.

 

PERSONAL INFORMATION

 

By Millie, 12

Keep details such as your full name, address, mobile number, email address, school name and friends full names secret.

Otherwise people can use this information to contact you. Your passwords and nicknames should always be secret.

If you have to give an online screen name or nickname, never use your real name, and try not to use things that are easy to guess like your parents name or the name of a pet.

When you send a text or photo message from your mobile, your phone number automatically goes with it.

So think carefully, especially before sending photos of yourself or friends from your camera-phone.

 

DOWNLOADING

 

By Jo, 12

Gaming and technology has really moved on. You can send countless messages as you sit in your chair and play on your console.

Also you can now download games so that they’re ready to play as soon as you click ‘download’. However not all downloads are completely safe – some may contain viruses, and not all messages will be friendly. Here’s what to do if you receive a bad message or virus.

 Always let an adult know if you think you are being cyberbullied 

Check the website that you have downloaded and research its history before you press ‘download’. If it is the official webpage of the download, it should be ok, but you should always check.

Do you know what to do if a user starts hassling you online? Who do you tell? Where can you turn?

Check out the report abuse section of the games website you’re on, or, if you’re on your console playing, make sure you know how to block a user and save the evidence of their abuse. Always let an adult know if you think you are being cyberbullied.

 

CYBERBULLYING

 

By Sienna, 12, Issy, 13, & Marina, 12

Even on the internet bullying can occur. Posting an embarrassing or humiliating video of someone, harassing someone by sending messages or even setting up profiles on social networking sites are all examples of cyberbullying.

No one especially children and teenagers should go through this. Normally the bully may seem big but is actually as scared and shy as the victim. People seem so big over the internet. You don’t really know who is out there or who is behind the profile or screen.

Talk to someone you trust. This could be a teacher, parent or friend. You may even have to change your email address if you’re repeatedly bullied through email.

 You can easily become a bully – stop and think before you write a message 

No matter how horrible the message – do not reply. That is what the bully wants. Instead block instant messages and emails. Ask a parent or teacher for help.

Whatever you think, you’re not alone. There is always someone else who has gone through something like you. In our class at school of 18 pupils, seven have been cyberbullied and 12 know someone who has experienced it.

In terms of instant messaging, it is very easy to say something that you wouldn’t say in real life. You can easily become a bully. Stop and think before you write a message. Think of the consequences. How would you feel in that situation?

 

Top 10 Tips for Online Game Safety

Our children are growing up in an age of technology. As we all know there are many benefits to it, but unfortunately some downfalls as well… If your child is into all the new technologies, chances are they will participate in online gaming. Be sure to read these tips to protect your kids – and feel free to share with us how make sure your kids are safe! Here are the top 10 tips according to Gametheoryonline.com:


At first glance, the Internet’s online virtual world seems like a vast, untamed frontier. That’s not a bad comparison. The ‘net is a wondrous and hugely useful tool for learning and entertainment, including playing games, but it can also be a pretty rough place for kids to dwell if they don’t stay within certain boundaries.

Simply forbidding your child to go online is not an option either: The Internet is an extremely important reservoir of knowledge, and is as culturally and materially relevant as televisions, phones and libraries in a modern sociological context. Rather than attempt to ban online usage, parents should instead establish safe browsing habits in their home and instill them in their children as soon as possible.

When we prepare our kids for the outside world, we tell them not to take presents from strangers, and to look both ways before crossing the street. In the online world, the same common sense rules apply. Here and 10 hints and tips for online gaming safety that can help you keep kids safe while enjoying their favorite free, downloads and massively multiplayer online (MMO) games, not to mention ensure a more enjoyable Internet multiplayer experience for all.

Never Share Personal Data and Information Online: This is one of the most important keys to helping kids stay safe on the Internet (and it’s a good bit of advice for adults, too). Parents should warn their children that personal information such as name, address, age, etc. should never be given out to strangers through email, chat clients, instant messages or any other means. Birthdays, locations and personal preferences can all be used to facilitate fraud or identity theft, while criminals, thieves and sexual predators can also take advantage of personal info to plan crimes, locate victims and fool unsuspecting innocents. Bear in mind: Even a seemingly innocent status update on Facebook, Twitter or a favorite MMO about your impending trip to Hawaii can act as a billboard to potential robbers, letting them know when you’ll be away and your house and valuables left unguarded.

Monitor Computer Time and Usage: By placing computers or consoles in public home areas such as the living room, and spending time together online playing games, parents can get a better idea of their kid’s browsing habits and hangouts. It’s much harder to hide unhealthy activity when you’re familiar with children’s preferences and preferred venues, and able to keep an active eye on their PC or video game system usage patterns.

Employ Kid-Friendly Internet Web Browser Add-ons: Add-ons (downloadable programs) for popular web browsers such as Internet Explorer, Chrome and Firefox, e.g. KidZui and Glubble, can quickly be installed to make Internet browsing safe and fun. These add-ons – which can filter questionable sites and videos, block inappropriate online content, and limit access to parent, teacher and educator approved resources – are easy to find, simple to use, and give parents peace of mind while their kids browse the Internet. As children mature and learn better online habits, switching back to regular browsing is as simple as inputting a password.

Set Time Limits: Especially for very young children, it’s a good idea to establish specific times when computer usage is allowed, preferably when parents can keep an eye on what’s being done. Generally, kids and young teens shouldn’t be on the computer when the rest of the family is asleep, especially on a school night, or using it for hours on end when they should be doing homework instead. Thankfully, most Mac and Windows PC operating systems allow you to set hours on which certain users are permitted to use the computer. If said user tries to gain access during a forbidden hour, he or she will be barred and logged out automatically. Setting specific time limits can also foster healthy dialogue amongst parents and kids, helping all encourage a healthier lifestyle and better balance of leisure activities.

Educate Yourself: There are a great deal of free online games, virtual worlds and multiplayer gaming amusements on the Internet, but not all of them are appropriate for kids. As ever, an ounce of prevention outweighs a pound of cure, as firsthand knowledge is a parent’s most powerful tool in the battle to enable Internet safety and promote healthy online gaming habits. So do yourself a favor: Get to know what your child is playing, and familiarize yourself with the game’s safety rules. Most online virtual words have a “For Parents” section that outlines moderation policies, and some online games even let parents hook up their own accounts to their kids’ accounts so that parents can moderate playtime. Learning more about your children’s favorite games won’t just better equip you to handle the challenges that come with online gaming. It also provides a ready excuse to spend time with your kids over a positive bonding activity that all can enjoy, and better understand their personal preferences, motivations and interests.

Talk About Safe Online Spending: Many digital diversions from MMOs to virtual worlds and free to play online games offer special items and exclusive levels for a small, optional fee on the back-end. (These bite-sized digital impulse buys, known as “microtransactions,” are primarily how most free online games fund their projects). Talk to your kids about online spending, and make sure they understand both how it works, and that they need your permission before making purchases.

Use Parental Controls: Most PCs, Internet browsers and video game systems offer easy-to-use Parental Controls software settings that can restrict a child’s usage of these devices and help keep them away from unsightly or questionable content. Check your PC’s control panel, or your web browser or video game console’s Settings and/or Preferences for more information on these features.

Supervise Online, Multiplayer and Real-World Interaction: The Internet is remarkable in that it lets us make friends from around the world, and connect and play with them in real-time. Occasionally, luckier players even get to hold a real-life meeting with the buddies they make online. These meetings are a thrill, but they should never happen without a third party at-hand to make sure everything turns out safe – and that advice extends to adults meeting online friends for the first time, too. Should you wish to avoid strangers entirely, many games also provide options to turn off voice and text chat, and limit online play to pre-approved friend lists. Suffice it to say that in many cases, levels of online multiplayer interaction, and resulting real-world contact, can be custom tailored to your personal level of comfort. Any instances of questionable, immoral or abusive online behavior can also be reported to online moderations and authorities, who provide in-game supervision.

Investigate Digital Gifts and Suspicious Activities: Online shopping lets us order cool stuff from around the world, including virtual goods that only exist on the computer and thousands of real-world treats that can be sent to friends using retailers like Amazon.com. But if your child suddenly starts receiving odd messages, communications at strange hours and/or email from strangers – let alone packages from unfamiliar addresses or gift boxes from online stores without first consulting you about a purchase – it’s best to look into the source. Caution is, as ever, the watchword.

Above All Else, Communicate with Kids: Be open and talk to your child about his or her online adventures. Discuss the websites he or she likes to visit, ask about the friends they make, and address any questions or concerns he or she may have. Don’t be afraid to discuss difficult issues such as cyberbullying, heated arguments and handling queries from total strangers as well. Avoid being judgmental: The goal is to foster open and constructive dialogue that leads to better understanding and communication on both sides of the table. After all, when it comes to the Internet’s vast and uncharted online world, for both parents and kids alike, you can never be too prepared.

Protecting Your Online Reputation

Be sure to check out what information is posted about you and your family online… Have you ever found some information that wasn’t supposed to be there? Here’s a great article from WBTV that will help you determine what information about you and your loved ones can be found online…

CHARLOTTE, NC (WBTV) –  We all know the old saying, “sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me.”  What if the names go global across the internet and now you or your kids have a bad reputation online that carries into your off-line life?

If any of you have used a service like eBay or Amazon, you have seen a rating of the buyers and sellers out there.  This gives you an idea of who to stay away from online when you are buying and selling something.

What if someone posted something negative about you or your child and now people stay away from you?  You don’t need to be a victim.

There are different ways for you to spot an issue and to deal with it.  Former White House cyber security expert Theresa Payton explains how you can deal with negative online postings about you.

Step Number One:  Start by searching your own name and the names of everyone in your family.  Try to read the results as a complete stranger.  Then I ask them, “Would you hire you?  Would you date you?  Would you marry you?  Would you want to do business with you?”

Sometimes the posts seem out of your control because someone else posted them.  But you are not completely helpless.  You can take control.

HOW TO PROTECT YOURSELF

FOR THE DO IT YOURSELF – FREE OPTIONS

There are 4 easy steps you can take to be A.L.E.R.T. about your online reputation:

1)     A:  Automated Alerts.  Go to Google Alerts and set up a daily or weekly alert to let you know every time something hits the web with your name or your kids name.

2)     L:  Look yourself up in your favorite or multiple search engines.  Try www.Google.com, www.Bing.com, www.Yahoo.com .

3)     E:  Erase & Eliminate.  If you see postings you created that are not flattering, erase those.  If you see content you do not like posted by your friends, for example a crazy party you attended, ask them nicely to eliminate those.

4)     R:  Register your FirstNameLastName.com so that you own your name as a website and post information there.

5)     T:  Type postings that are either on your favorite hobby or your profession and post them on places such as www.Facebook.com, www.Twitter.com, www.LinkedIn.com, or even on your own blog. You own the content, the frequency, and your own network of friends and professionals can give you ratings there that others can view.  You can also use the free service, http://claimid.com to set up a profile about you.

PAID SERVICES

For those that prefer to pay a service to manage this for you, there are many options available to you.
First, decide your budget that you are willing to pay.
We are highlighting 4 options that you can research to see if they are a good fit for you.
These can help you, your kids, and your company:

ReputationDefender:  www.reputationdefender.com

They have many services, including a monthly service that mines the web to find references about you and advisors who can help you to weed out the bad and the inaccurate.  They also have a MyChild service targeted specifically for kids and how they and their friends use the internet.

Safety Net:  www.socialmediamanagement.net has several services.  They have one to protect your children and one that can focus on you or your company.

Designed for Businesses:

Reputation Hawk:  www.reputationhawk.com

DigitalStakeout:  www.digitalstakeout.com

WHAT TO DO IF YOU ARE A VICTIM

If the postings are false and you cannot get the negative postings down, you may have legal rights.  Talk to legal counsel about your case to see if laws regarding protections from  defamation, cyber stalking, or cyber bullying apply to your case.
Follow our A.L.E.R.T. tips on managing your online reputation.  It will take time, but those negative posts will begin to drop off the search results.

 

RESOURCES:

claimID:  ClaimID was created at UNC Chapel Hill in the computer department.  They wanted to provide a free way to help people manage their online identity.  Go to http://claimid.com

Understanding Social Media:  www.Mashable.com

Book That Explains How to Manage Your Reputation Online:  http://meandmywebshadow.com

Sue Scheff, Parent Advocate has helpful podcasts and articles about internet defamation.  Try:  http://suescheffpodcasts.com/  or http://suescheffblog.com/

Google Alert Set Up:  http://www.google.com/alerts