The Facts on Teens and Sexting

Sexting is becoming more popular. Experts say that it is the parents responsibility to educate their children and let them know about the dangers which can range from damage to their reputation to possible charges for the possession or even distribution of child pornography. Watch the video and see how serious this issue is. Watch the video and read the article we found on NBC26.com.

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Green Bay, WI – It’s a shocking trend that’s much more popular than you might think. More than 30 percent of young people are “sexting”, sending nude or semi-nude pictures of themselves through text message. And all too often, those pictures end up in the wrong hands.

For many, texting is a quick and easy form of communication. But the same technology making our lives easier, comes with a dark side.

“So much of our culture is sexually-oriented,” said Thomas Thomas, a sexual addiction therapist in Green Bay. “My youngest sex addict is 7 years old, and my oldest is as old as most people live.”

These days, Thomas says more and more teens are sexting. In fact, statistics show that one in ten teens have sent a naked image of themselves through text message. Thomas says it’s something that particularly affects young women.

“Their bodies are important to them,” explained Thomas. “There’s a great emphasis on them. And they believe that if somebody will see my body – particularly another male – that they will be more liked, they will be more popular… and forget that once it’s out there, it’s out there.”

Lizzy Van Krey, a student at Kimberly High School, says her friend learned that lesson the hard way.

“From a friend’s experience, she did make that wrong decision. Her boyfriend, who she thought she could trust, ended up showing those pictures to his friends,” said Van Krey.

In some cases, sexting can turn into a criminal charge. Thomas says he knows one couple who experienced just that.

“He was 19. The girl was 16,” said Thomas. “They were sexting and got into an argument. He showed her picture to other people on the internet. The parents got mad, pursued that… and now, the 19-year-old is listed as a pedophile.”

Van Krey and her friend, Sam Kilsdonk, say they know better. Now, they’re warning other teens about the dangers associated with sexting.

“It can easily get around to other people,” said Kilsdonk. “It’s a quick little text message away. We talk about sending so many text messages a month. That text message that you send to a guy or a girl that’s inappropriate can easily get sent out.”

“It’s fast. It’s an easy way to do it, and people don’t really think about that when they’re sending the pictures,” Van Krey said.

The teens say many who are in a relationship feel that sexting is something that’s expected.

“It is something that people believe they should do to show affection or show that they care,” said Van Krey.

Thomas says it has a lot to do with negative self-image.

“You don’t have to do sexting,” said Thomas. “You don’t have to have a value system that’s degrading to you just to be popular.”

When it comes to preventing sexting, Thomas says much of the responsibility falls on the parent.

“We have to take charge and be in control of what our children are doing,” he said.

Thomas says it’s important to build a trust system with your teen, and communicate with them about the things that can be difficult to talk about.

“Communicate with your child. Trust your child,” said Thomas. “If we keep that communication open, it just alleviates a lot of hurtful, painful situations for our young people.”

Kids are now using “codes” to hide things from their parents

Just as parents are catching up with technology, our children come up with new things to make our life more difficult: They are writing in “Codes”. Now it’s on us to figure them out! This article will cover some of them, such as: BIH, GNOC, AITR or W2M… If you don’t know what these mean, read the article!!!! Also, please share some of the ones you are aware and help others learn!

In the vast number of places kids can fall into trouble on the web, parents often find it challenging to monitor what their children are doing in cyberspace. This is particularly true as the web increasingly becomes more social.
Over time chat lingo has become a part of the norm when engaging in online conversations, however, these terms rarely remain stagnant as new web speak emerges. Keeping up with all those acronyms can be difficult for parents as try and monitor what their kids are doing, especially if their children actively make an effort to try and mask what they are talking about online. Social network monitoring service SocialShield has released a list of the top terms children are using online. In a press release emailed to Digital Journal, SocialShield’s list “sheds light on the latest lingo kids are using to hold illicit, risky or secretive conversations.” The list was released this past week and includes several ‘codes’ kids use that their parents likely don’t know – and should. According to SocialShield,

“These little-known codes are part of a new lexicon being formed by children—and those who might prey on children—to communicate with each other in ways that most adults wouldn’t understand.”

The list was compiled through an analysis of commonly “flagged” terms pegged by SocialShield’s cloud-based monitoring engines which pick out terms that might be risky, illicit or dangerous. SocialShield has categorized social media terms in six different categories which are: cyberbullying, warning of parents in the room, conversations sexual in nature, cries for help, drugs and drinking, and requests to meet in person.
For many years now teens have turned to socialization online as a way to meet up with their peers and interact. However, now that parents are friending their kids on Facebook and other networks, in their eyes, this may have crossed too far over the line of what’s cool. Consider a hangout or house where parents or other adults are constantly present, teens are more likely to go to hang out in places, well, where their parents aren’t.
In response to being connected to adults online, kids may actively seek ways to slip under their parents’ radar. For instance, recently an interesting trend emerged that indicated teens were migrating to Twitterin order to escape the eyes of the adults in their lives and try and increase their privacy in virtual spaces. Other teens that are posting under the eyes of their parents are taking a different approach by adapting new lingo that their parents are not versed in.

“Many parents think friending their child on social networks is enough to monitor their activities and protect them, yet time and time again it’s shown that it isn’t,” said George Garrick, CEO of SocialShield. “Most parents don’t have the time to keep up with the sheer volume of interactions or have the understanding of the online language to really get what their kids are saying or what people are saying to their kids. This makes it really easy for problems to go unnoticed,” said Garrick.

SocialShield says the more parents connect with their kids on networks, the more frequently new terms pop up. A sampling of the top ‘coded’ terms highlighted by SocialShield in each of their six categories included:
  • Cyberbullying Terms: BIH (“Burn In Hell”); GKY (“Go Kill Yourself”); 182 (“I Hate You”)
  • Warning of Parents/Adults Nearby: POS (“Parent Over Shoulder”); AITR (“Adult In The Room”); P911 (“Parent Emergency”)
  • Sexual Terms: GNOC (“Get Naked On Cam”); TDTM (“Talk Dirty To Me”); D46 (“Down For Sex?”) • Cries for Help: IHML (“I Hate My Life”); IHTFP (“I Hate This F–king Place”); PHM (“Please Help Me”) 
  • Drugs/Drinking Terms: CRAFT (“Can’t Remember A F–king Thing”); UDI (“Unidentified Drinking Injury”
  • Meet Up Requests: MIRL (“Meet In Real Life?”); W2M (“Want To Meet?”); S2R (“Send To Receive” [Pictures]
Parents are best armed through educating themselves to keep up with current Internet trends. The terms listed are said by SocialShield to be text lingo parents should be aware of their kids potentially using. The service also continuously updates the program’s dictionary of terms as it scans social network interactions. Social Shield’s full list of terms:

Screen shot from SocialShield’s Facebook page of commonly used ‘secret words’ teens use on social networks that parents should be aware of

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